Get to Know Sarah
Time to Figure it Out
All the dedicated, hardworking mothers will understand there comes a point when it’s time to find out just who you are without the identity of “mom”. That moment struck me in 2023. I had spent the majority of my adult life living in that role. I wanted to work hard and invest in my two sons. I worked full time (first at Costco and then as a Dental Hygienist ). All my remaining time was spent all on them in one form or another. When I look back, with wiser eyes, there are things I would’ve done differently but I know I never took a moment with them for granted.


Making the Switch from Them to Me
The boys were on their way to independence. No more shuttling back and forth between school, music lessons, concerts, friend’s houses etc. What did I like? I used the same method I used while raising them. Throw a bunch of wet noodles at the wall and see what sticks. I tried fishing, pottery, house projects, working more, but in the end I chose bikes, bicycles to be specific.
I had cheap mountain bike that I bought for family bike rides down the Centennial Trail in Spokane and the Hiawatha trail in Idaho, but the kids were busy, so it mostly just collected a lot of dust in the corner of the garage. At that point in my life, I had also spent a little too much time watching the news and Dateline so I was risk adverse.
Still determined to dust off my bike, I asked around and found a “safe enough” route, the Trail of the Coeur d’Alenes. I decided I would start with 5 miles, and as I headed out, I passed a family who were studying the trailhead map and pondering how difficult it would be to turn around and climb up the 3-5% grade to get back to the car. That’s when the worry crept in. I didn’t know if I was too out of shape to get back and as I pedaled into the seclusion of the woods it hit me that there were probably mountain lions and bears lurking behind rocks and trees. After about 3.5 miles I decided to turn around. It was starting to get dark; I wasn’t sure how long it would take to pedal back, and I didn’t know if my slow uphill speed would make me a more vulnerable target.
It turned out to be a fairly quick and uneventful trip back to the car. My next ride was 50 miles and I was sore, but I was also hooked on the experience and the challenge. It wasn’t long until I bought my first used gravel bike, Loki, yes, I named it, a peculiarity that I later found was not uncommon. The God of Mischief, understandable since it was black, carbon and with my feet clipped in, had led me to fall over more than once.
A Fool in Love
With my newfound love of cycling, I signed up for Ride the Hurricane because riding my bike up a mountain side near the Puget Sound sounded COOL! It wasn’t until a friend pointed out that the 5,300 ft climb probably wasn’t for beginners that I knew I might have had some love goggles on when I clicked the signup here button. Oh well! I started “training” by riding up and down a short hill in my neighborhood.
Shortly thereafter I met Jake. I needed a better route for training, and I didn’t know there were strange people who enjoyed pulling up their Ride with GPS app to pore over “heat maps” and route secret ways to pedal through the city on lightly trafficked backroads. He asked if I wanted company on the route he made for me. The risk of being lost on a gravel road in the middle of nowhere outweighed the risk of riding a bike with a man I hardly knew, so I said yes.
The ride was filled with a comforting amount of friendly jibber jabber. At the top of one of the climbs, he offered me a bite of his bikey snack. I didn’t normally share food with strangers (risk adverse), but I took it, not wanted to be rude or too uptight, which despite my attempts I found out later that “uptight” was exactly how I presented.
That morning ride turned into a lunch date, which turned into a paddle board shopping trip because he made those sound pretty cool as well. Costco was out of paddle boards, but I went home that night having found a person who was just my type of fun and weird.


…. One Thing Leads to Another
Figuring out my love of cycling was just the tip of the iceberg. A paddle board and an ocean kayak were added to the mix for when my legs needed a break, but adventures were calling. The remote beautiful places seen behind the bars of my bikes or paddles of my kayak are unreal. The cost to access these places is pushing myself far past what is comfortable, but that brings its own rewards of growth and strength.
I am still less of a risk taker than my partner in crime. I spend extra time weighing risks vs benefits, considering paths and possible outcomes with back up plans. Regardless, I have always been willing to try new things and when my sights are set on a goal, I feel capable.
Now we’re taking an exciting step to bring everything together on a 24-year-old sailboat. We are working to get the boat to a seaworthy state, remodeling our house to open the possibility of creating a rental income, exploring new ways of working as we travel, discussing ways to bring joy to others when we are abroad, and living a lifestyle that involves a lot of effort and grit. Just my cup of tea. Like so many other women who have inspired me to try new things, I hope you gain some ideas and inspiration from this journey.

